Friday, February 25, 2011

Needing To Talk....

Hello dear world

Good evening everyone. I hope you are all well. It is officially Friday aren't you all excited ? Well it was another day at work for me and the weather was quite nice. It is hard to be inside when the weather is nice.

I have some thoughts to share with you if you don't mind me bending your ear for a minute or two. First I know that many of us have fears and doubts about things in life. Some of us are afraid of heights, meeting new people, starting a new job, spiders or perhaps going to the doctor.

I have to tell you a secret that I have never shared with you before. I passed the driver's test in which I got my driver's license but I have never driven since then. I recently got a car but the thing is I am afraid to get behind the wheel of a car. I have been going to work with one of my coworker's. The thing is I have always been afraid to drive and to get out on the road. I know that certain people think it is silly for me to be afraid. I hate to be afraid to do something that so many people are doing. I know that there are a lot of people who are able to get behind the wheel and drive a car.

Many people I know have fears and doubts in their lives and they deal with them. How do you deal with having fears and doubts in your life ? Me it seems that I wish that I could just get over this and get on with things but its not so easy. So many things are easier said than done. I have never been able to get over this part of my life. I don't know why I have always been so afraid to drive. I have never thought that I would be afraid to do something that others can do. A lot of people have been trying to encourage me and tell me that I can get behind the wheel of a car but its not so easy to convince myself to believe the people that are trying to encourage me.

Anywho...I just needed to come and talk to you my dear world. I do hope that you all had a good week. I hope that you all will have a great weekend ahead. I will talk to you again soon.

Take care everyone.


Sonya said...

I end up praying for my fears. I often don't handle my fears well, so God gives me what I need to get things done. I think you should take baby steps to condition yourself. Maybe at first just back out of the driveway and in again a few times, then go around the block, then drive to a neighborhood store or restaurant, then keep inching your way as you feel comfortable until you can master going to work or other places you need to go. I understand that fear. I am often like that driving downtown or in unfamiliar areas.

LYN said...

I wrote a post the other day about how much I hate to drive but it's a necessity for me. i agree with Sonya...just drive a little at a time to build up your confidence...

Sybil said...

Sorry to be late commenting but I have been away for a few days.
I'm sorry that you are not out and about driving. You passed your driving test, so you must be good enough or you would not have been able to do that. do you think that you had a fright when you were driving ? that coudl make you fearful. I think Sonya's advise is a good. Just take things slow but do have a day you may have an emergency and you would have to best be prepared. Keep us up to date.
Love Sybil x

ADB said...

I got a driving license but when I finally got behind the wheel of a car (a good while later), I was terrified. After a day's driving on the narrow roads of the Scottish islands, my nerves were shot. The second day, things were actually better. However, traffic here is very calm. I can imagine that you'll have quite heavy traffic to contend with.
Do not feel ashamed to be afraid of driving independently. Would you be in a position to have someone in the car with you, perhaps even engage a driving instructor for an hour or two on the first occasion?

Kathy said...

Monae, you're right. We all have fears. First, as Guido pointed out, you don't need to feel ashamed or embarrassed.

For myself, when I have to face something that makes me nervous I try to think what makes me fearful?

Once I have a better idea of why I'm fearful I set my mind to working on the rational reasons for that fear and then try to conquer the rest.

I don't enjoy driving like I used to, but driving offers me freedom to come and go as I please -- so I try not to think about not enjoying it and think of it more as a tool that I use throughout the day.

I think the others are right on with their advice. Try a little trip out of the driveway. Parking the car on the street, then later bring it back into the driveway. Around the block, to the corner store ... short five minute trips and maybe time them when there is little traffic to contend with, slowly building and boosting your confidence.

Sandisan said...

I can understand your fear...I never learned how to drive myself. Growing up my Dad worked shifts that never made the car accessible to me to learn on. I lived in NY and the transportation system was wonderful..and I loved to walk. Here in Florida it's a different story, my hubby drove and it was never necessary for me to do it. But events can force you into different paths, my Joe died so now I am faced with having to learn how to do it. It may sound silly but for myself I use those ride on carts that the supermarkets have...I was afraid to even use those! Well, I did it and found out that I love doing perhaps moving on up to a real vehicle won't be sooo bad? I think for you having someone with you when you start to drive would help. I've been an excellent co-pilot for my sister who is scared of unknown areas, highways etc....I think the moral support helps....